Hey there, lovely humans! 🌈 Today, let’s talk about something that’s been sneaking under the radar, bi erasure. It's one of those sneaky things that we often don’t even notice, but it can really mess with someone’s sense of self. Now, don’t go running for the hills, I promise we’re going to get through this with some smiles and good vibes.

So, What Exactly Is Bi Erasure?


Okay, let’s break it down: bi erasure happens when people either ignore, deny, or downplay the validity of bisexuality. It’s like when someone says, “Are you sure you’re not just straight? Or gay?” It’s the idea that you can only be one or the other, that there’s no room for someone that loves more than one gender. It’s like telling a rainbow, “You can’t exist because you’re a combination of too many colors!” I mean, how rude, right? 🌈

Bi erasure can also happen within the LGBTQ community itself, which is kind of like being told you don’t belong at the family reunion, just because you like the mashed potatoes and the green beans. Hey, you belong there just as much as anyone else.

You're just confused. You'll pick a side eventually.

When someone dismisses bisexuality, they may say things like, “You’ll pick a side eventually,” or “You’re just confused.” But here’s the thing: bisexuality isn’t about confusion or being stuck in the middle; it’s about being open to love in all its beautiful forms. Just because someone could be in love with any gender doesn’t make them less valid. And yet, this erasure hurts, because it tells people their love isn’t real, or their identity is just a phase. Spoiler alert: We’re not going through a phase, and we’re definitely not feeling confused. (Well, maybe a little about which Netflix show to watch, but that’s not the same thing. 😂) Love is never just a phase, and neither is a person’s identity. đŸłïžâ€đŸŒˆ

We’re not in a phase, and we’re definitely not confused.

person looking happy in mirror at themselves and sees themselves hugging themselves being happy and supportive. wears jacket in bisexual flag colors.

Why Should We Care About Bi Erasure?

Bi erasure isn’t just a "small inconvenience." It can be downright damaging. When people invalidate or overlook bisexuality, it can leave someone questioning their identity or even feeling alone in their experience. We all deserve recognition and a voice for who we truly are, right? Whether we’re into people who love all genders, one gender, somewhere in between or no gender, our love is real. It’s not a gray area or a stage. It’s a valid, vibrant part of who we are.

Real-Life Consequences of Bi Erasure

Besides, bi erasure can lead to real-life consequences. When people invalidate or erase bisexuality, they harm bisexual individuals' mental health, self-worth, and sense of belonging. Imagine hearing that your entire existence doesn’t matter. That’s what bi erasure can feel like , being overlooked, sidelined, and sometimes rejected by the very communities you’re part of. That’s not cool. 😔

Standing Strong in Your Identity

Additionally, bi people can sometimes face discrimination from both straight and queer communities. Straight people may think they’re just “going through a phase,” while the LGBTQ community might think they’re not “gay enough” or “lesbian enough” to fully belong. It feels like you're stuck in a tug of war, with no one standing by your side. But here’s the kicker: you deserve to be on someone’s side. You deserve recognition and respect simply for being yourself. And we should all be ready to stand in your corner. ✊

Building a World without Bi erasure

But here’s the thing: while bi erasure is real, we can all work to stop it. That’s where things start getting better and this is the fun part. Together, we can build a world that celebrates bisexuality instead of erasing it. And it doesn’t have to be a somber, heavy conversation. Instead, we can address it with a dose of positivity and love, because guess what? Bi people are amazing, and they deserve a space where they can thrive and be who they are, unapologetically.

Never let anyone erase your identity!

What Can We Do About It?


Spoiler alert: It’s simple. All we need is a little bit of awareness and a lot of love! Here are a few simple, but important ways we can all help stop bi erasure and make bisexual people feel seen and loved.

Listen and Believe People When They Say They’re Bi.

Sometimes the best thing we can do is listen. When a bi person shares their identity with you, don’t brush it off or invalidate their experience. Instead, listen, ask how they’re doing, and celebrate their courage. Just like if someone says, “I’m vegan,” and you don’t respond with, “Oh, but what about cheese?”, don’t dismiss their bisexuality. Support them, because coming out (in any form) can be tough, and they deserve your respect. 🧡

Stop Making Assumptions About Bisexuality.

Let’s be real, everyone has an opinion about bisexuality, and many of them are based on stereotypes. “Oh, they just want attention.” “They’ll choose a side soon.” “Bi people are just confused.” But here’s the truth: bisexuality isn’t about confusion or indecisiveness, it’s about embracing multiple possibilities and expressing love in all its many forms. So, stop assuming and start supporting. Every person’s journey is unique, and their sexuality is valid, regardless of what anyone thinks. 🌟

Use Inclusive Language

If you’re talking about relationships, don’t forget that bisexual people can be in relationships with anyone. A little "partner" goes a long way. It’s like calling someone “they” when you're not sure of their gender, it shows respect and kindness. Remember, bisexuality doesn’t disappear when someone settles into a relationship with one gender, it’s still part of who they are, just like any other aspect of their identity.đŸ©·

Don’t Erase Bi people—Celebrate!

Instead of erasing bisexuality from conversations or making it feel less valid, let’s celebrate it! Share stories, spread awareness, and create an environment where bisexual people feel like they belong, because they do! If you’re talking about LGBTQ issues, make sure to mention bisexuality. When someone shares their identity with you, celebrate it. And when you hear bi jokes or comments that dismiss bisexuality, speak up! It’s all about spreading positivity and making sure no one feels like they’re on the outside looking in. 🌈

group of friends talking together and looking happy. with bisexual flags in background where bi erasure is not a thing.

Bisexuality doesn’t disappear when someone settles into a relationship.

A Sweet Little Reminder


To all the bi folks reading this: You are loved. You are enough. Your identity is important, and you deserve to be celebrated just as much as anyone else. Don’t let the haters or erasers get you down. You’re not just “going through a phase” (unless that phase involves eating way too much vegan ice cream in one sitting, in which case, no judgment!). You are valid, and you are incredible exactly as you are. Remember: Never let anyone erase your identity!💖

And to everyone else: Let’s keep the love flowing. Treat each other with kindness, respect, and, above all, empathy. We’re all on this beautiful, messy, rainbow-filled journey together, and we need each other more than ever. So, let’s support each other, let’s amplify each other, and let’s keep making the world a more inclusive and loving place for everyone. đŸŒđŸ’«

Thanks for reading, friends. Now, let’s go grab some cupcakes (vegan, of course), and keep spreading the love. 🧁